Have you ever wonder why people often mused over the past, claiming how illustrious it was, and immediately resort into that romance mode which only seemed to make them even more favourable over the situation in the past than the present? Well i have. in fact, often times i am one of those people. that’s right, i am truly a great reminiscer.
Factually, reminiscing romantically on the past is not terribly my own proprietary indulgence. Everybody has, at one time or another, done it. Television station put it suggestively by making it into programs, as famous as the program Tembang Kenangan in indo TV, music groups identify themselves as a product of old cultures revived back (e.g. Naif, Club 80’s), advertisements that exploit the imagerial of the yesteryears. Put it simply again, everybody reminisce.
myself, i like to think about the past years, ponder, and contemplate about them. not least because of my rather affectionate character, but because most of the time it makes me happy to observe the past who always seems more…romantic, and also because it provide me the chance to do some reflection. The latter of the reasons i find most important, for it almost casually encourage me to analyze the past and the current, especially in the great prospect of finding out the answer to enduring questions such as: why does in the past (almost) everything always seemed so nicer to me? why does it feel so romantic to reminisce about them? all those thoughts brought me to this discussion and later to a rather plausible conclusion whom i will try to expound here over.
my perspective over the past in here does not exclusively affiliated to those of mine. indeed they are of extreme importance for me, however, when i used the term ‘past’ here, it does not necessarily mean MY past, but more specifically to ALL past stretching before current time, or now. my past could be the 90’s, could be the 80’s and even further way back to 50’s, only bounded to times whose knowledge about i can hardly reproduce.
Now, the questions are: what makes the past is such a delight to remember? why is it such a well to dwell upon?
these questions prompt us to discern on the too-oftenly-missable aspect of the people in the area of time called past. This aspect is the living and the technological situation of the people. The observation should not be done in absolute, self-standing manner however, but more importantly, in a relative manner to the present; to address the question of what is the fundamental difference between people of the past and people of the now.
along the dimension of time, lie parallel along the dimension of civilization. civilization has a nature of accumulation; itself builds upon itself because humans live together and share knowledge and ideas among themselves and their descendants. under the roof of our civilization, technology is a key factor that prooves itself as an agent of change to human’s way of living. Since the first axe was incidentally found by the primal men, men has change their way of living from hunting and gathering foods, agriculture and breeding cattle, trading, selling, industrially producing, to biogenetically producing - and that’s just from the food point of view. Human change his life as a new technology is invented and this is, by far, not discordant to the real purpose of technology itself; which is to provide usefulness in accomplishing human task. But what is exactly happening hidden behind this growth of technology and civilization is one fact that we often miss. A simple fact that people lead an increasingly effortless life.
Instead of walking, first men utilize animals such as horses to cover long distances, which effectively reduced efforts needed to travel. then they decipher the wheels and used it to construct the first ever vehicle, even if its human driven then animal driven; this is a revolution that became the tipping point to domino effect in technology in human civilization. the understanding of energy and the development of physics as full fledge science resulted first in nature driven engines, which were the forebears of steam engines (by great help from James Watt), and eventually gas engines in the modern days. by this time, efforts from human - not only in travelling - has reduced extremely significantly to say the least, in startling fact, allowing human to capture the impossible and otherwise unthinkable new goals such as landing on the moon and bombing countries thousands miles away with target rockets. mothers of nowadays homes do not have to cook their own foods, let alone grow foods which took a considerable amount of time and patience and energy and knowledge whom their counterparts hundreds of years ago must absolutely done to survive. from a different situation and time frame, a student nowadays does not have to busy himself at the library of the school to gain knowledge, nor does he need now to travel to faraway places just to find teachers and libraries of books such as those in Cairo, Damascus, or Cordoba, Spain during the reign of the Muslim world in 9 to 10th century. everything is simplified.
In a point of view, this all heads in a positive direction. by reducing the efforts of man to do a specific task, he will be relieved of the usage of excessive resources, and therefore able to allocate them to other useful and contributive things which would ease efforts of others, such as developing leading edge technology, train himself to be a better human resource of the industry, etc. and the spiral goes on, forming an unstoppable helix toward who knows where (perhaps until the earth finally takes its ultimate toll toward human). In another, somewhat sentimentalistic point of view - a view which will be used in this discussion to compare the past and the current - the advancement of technology and the reduction of efforts do not exactly produce the ‘healthy’ effect, Sentimentally that is.
imagine when you were little and you have to sneak around the kitchen just to find out where your mom might keep the delicious and delicate black forest cake that she had only in the rarest occasion (such as your birthday) made for you.
now imagine wishing to eat a black forest cake and suddenly you realized that what you have to do is simply fetch it down the alley of a supermarket which is by walking distance to your house that opens nearly 18 hours a day 6 days a week (almost always available).
now let me ask you? which one is better, romantic-wise? or put it simply, which one is MORE ROMANTIC? having to sneak around the kitchen and wait for mom to eat the blackforest, or, line up in a supermarket cashier while holding up your blackforest, fresh from the supermarket oven, and passing your credit card to the cashier woman to pay for it?
i doubt you would say the second came even close the first.
the first situation might appear 20 years ago, when blackforest is still a rare thing, and therefore most enjoyable thing, to enjoy; where supermarkets were barely existent, and the only resort to these kinds of delight is to count on to the kind-heartness of your ol’ sweet mom.
the second situation is a situation commonly known nowadays, where even the slightest wish could be fulfilled excessively quite effortlessly and easily - as long as you got the money. technology has allowed black forest to be produced massively and easily. a wish of black forest could easily be fulfilled, and further extended with perhaps the unnecessary purchases of cheese cakes, apple cakes, or crepes or anything imaginable to your mind.
the first situation corelates to a state of civilization arguably less than now, nevertheless it does command a higher state of romanticism than that of the now. how could that be? the answer: the efforts involved.
imagine Clark Gable who kissed Vivien Leigh in the unforgetable scene of the monstrous epic Gone With The Wind, softly, gently, mannerfully in the lips, that is after years of longing for it.
now imagine a pair of highschoole sweethearts, who just after their first date, resorts to a hefty volume of French kissing, full with kissing marks all over the girl’s neck.
the first case constitutes of immense efforts of winning hearts. a display of remarkable efforts of love. and, as can be shown in the Gone With The Wind case, it happened in the past.
the second case relates with a saddening amount of efforts. from the male perspective, it bares little efforts of gently caring over his intention over his spouse and, from female perspective, little or no evidence of significant efforts is shown in postponing such a daring activity in keeping of the old traditions of women’s pride and dignity. bear no doubt that this scene, to myself, as a class of 90s, is very familiar. and it is logically possible almost only in the present world.
imagine a man wanting to know all about the Pyramids of Egypt. a man from 100 years ago would prepare its travel baggage, prepared himself for a journey that might not only endanger the status of his financials but also of his life. a man of 10 minutes ago would perhaps go to the nearest internet terminal, which perhaps lie in his very own chamber, and browse everything he needs to know about about Pyramids, complete with text, pictures, sounds, and motions.
now, which is more romantic of both?
a man in need of fulfilling one of his basic human desire, sex, waited for the right woman to come, tirelessly and hopefully, for him to later married that woman. binding them in the ties of marriage and proceed to their most enchanting first night of not only sex but love.
now compare with another man, in need of sex, a basic human desire, decided to go ahead to scourge the sleazy city street corner in order to settle himself with the right prostitute. takes no time, takes no sweat, just money.
which of both is more romantic?
i hope you get the idea by now.
technology has change our effort into money. the need to do something is replaced with the need to get money to exchange for that effort, that is to purchase somebody else’s power to do that effort. in "Das Kapital", Karl Marx addresses this power as the labour power, the commodity that creates value.
as we pay money to exchange our effort (like paying money to make blackforest), we are ‘losing’ our need to do something. whether this is a really good thing remains to be disputable. but at least, as i said, from the romanticism point of view, our civilized and capitalistic world, that have succesfully and effectively trades money with efforts, had and Have manage to gradually degrade the romanticism of its own time.
its even more interesting when we conceive the plausible fact that all the concept of romance we got now were sourced mainly from the past. in fact, we study so much from the past, especially about what romance is. there are countless models that we now so know and love; from the scene where Humphrey ‘bogie’ Bogart kisses Inggrid Bergman in the classic Casablanca. from how Audrey Hepburn finally comprehend how great the love George Peppard has for her in Breakfast at Tiffany’s. not to mention from the love stories between our mom and dad when they were young and still a couple of lovers without bonds. from every imaginable bit of memories and documents available to us we study. the cinema, television and other media often times simply revive these memories into a production of films or programs.
in the process of being more "civilized" and "advanced", we all seem to forget that in every effort we do, even in the tiniest of amount and whether it turned out succesfull or not, lies a sense of achievement, whom the build up creates in effect a sense of beautiful romanticism and a promise of delightful reminiscences, ones that will always be worthy to fill this short memory of ours. No amount of money could ever replace this sense of romanticism.
lastly never did i say in this discussion that romanticism is like a commodity that can run out. that there is no romanticism in the world is the same as saying there is no more human in the world. Romanticism, for my part, is always there, lurking behind all those effort we do, either in the departments of love, work, family, or others. Periodically, romanticism will always exist, since each age represents its own difficulty to overcome therefore commands its own distinctive efforts. There are two important characters about romanticism that we must consider too: first that romanticism is always at the eye of the beholder; second, romanticism is (almost) always judged in relativistic point of view (e.g. from the future to the past). There are still wide spaces that justify for the existence of romanticism in any time period in the human history, either one that had happened or one that going to be. This discussion is only to enlight how different the amount, and perhaps the depth and kinds, of romanticism between the past us and the present us, how efforts determined our state of romanticism, and how much had our so called "civilized" world took away a certain degree of our own romanticism in compensation for all the comfortable and convenience that we all crave for but perhaps in reality being fulfilled far far too excessively much more than we needed.
“I heard a definition once: Happiness is health and a short memory! I wish I’d invented it, because it’s very true.” - Edda "Audrey" Kathleen Hepburn-Ruston.